So what about young Storm then?? Preceded always by the indefinite article since he/she/it has parents who clearly want the child to flounder through his/her/its early years encumbered by ignorance of the world around and a basic understanding of the social implications of his/her/its gender.
Is there a child protection issue here? Some emotional abuse? Are these parents who withdraw from offering identity to a child, who deny access to cultural norms and isolate the child from normal relationship building?
This is clearly the extension of the experiment started with the unconventional – unisex -naming of their first two boys. That the intention is to carry this throughout the childs’ life, through self-determined home schooling (where the child chooses his/her/its own lessons for the day) appears innovative in the extreme. Or utterly derelict in their duty to the child.
It has been well said that neither of these parents has bothered to change their names to anything which will get them noticed in a crowd. Both parents have had the advantage of a good college education. Both have friends who know them for the gender/identity nature has given them. Neither has had to live the experiment.
Is it utter self-indulgence to deny such security to their children? To require the children to fight their way through life, isolated from the basic norms of socialization?
That a child’s own parents does not afford the fundamental acknowledgement of that child’s gender does not bode well for a future of emotional stability for the child nor of psychological needs being met.
If young Storm, at age three, decides he/she/it wishes to be Fred or Anna to make life easier for him/her/it in the street – will this be easily/unquestionably accommodated? Should Storm decide he/she/it wants to attend state primary school, be an angel in the Christmas Nativity play, join in the school soccer team – will his/her/it’s parents feel that this is where their experiment must end and the child’s wishes need take precedence?
Parenting is certainly a difficult business. Full of anxious and troublesome decisions. But these must be made in the context of the environment and the world which the child is to inhabit. No child deserves to carry the torch alone for the parents’ beliefs. Especially where those beliefs set the child apart from its peers, it’s culture and society.
Such behaviour appears very much like a parent sacrificing the child on the alter of egotistical, self-righteous, social experimentation – neither justification nor acceptable excuse for failing to offer their child the most basic of human needs – a gender identity.